Comment received today at 2:09pm from ‘Megan’:
You are such a drama queen about this pregnancy, I’d hate for when your precious baby comes you still have this type of outlook since a newborn is 100x’s more work than a slightly rough pregnancy.
My reply, which I have also emailed (I expect she’s given a phony address):
Megan,
I just received notification of your comment.
First, I’d like to point out that we probably do not know each other, and you are not my doctor or midwife. My pregnancy has been a far cry from ‘slightly rough’, and reading my previous postings would have told you that. I’ve been to the hospital on 3 separate occasions, given numerous prescriptions, and had many different people checking my body, trying to understand the uncommon symptoms that I’ve been having. I’ve read countless books and spoken to friends, family and other bloggers regarding their pregnancy experiences, and therefore know that most of what I’ve gone through is not common, nor is it ‘slightly rough’.
Second, it is quite cruel of you to have commented in such a way, if for no other reason than the fact that I am having a hard time dealing with the mental and physical aspects of pregnancy; comments like this do nothing to help, and honestly, make you look like a terrible person.
Please refrain from posting on my site, and I advise you to consider the effect your judgemental outlook has on others, especially strangers.
I’d also like to point out to anyone else thinking of commenting in a similar manner, that OBVIOUSLY I know that a baby will be harder than even my worst days pregnant; why do you think I am so worried, stressed, freaked out?! I still have the labor itself to deal with, and then I’ll be responsible for a life. I’m not just dwelling on the here and now; my mind has already jumped ahead to the things to come, and THAT is what’s keeping me up at night.
I am very proud of you, Michelle for replying in a manner that you did not have to at all. They were rude and it was completely uncalled for and you had a nice response. Who cares what anyone else thinks. EVERY woman has a different story, different pregnancy difficulties, and a different aspect on how to care for a life once you get over the actual birthing itself. You are an amazing woman, smart, in fact…smarter than MOST your age if not older….I know taking care of a child is scary and even though I haven’t had my own yet, I’ve still raised a few kids and it’s never easy. But your blog is amazing, none of your family or friends would ever want you to ‘sugar coat’ your story. We want to be there for you and help you whenever we can and other people [like the one with the comment] that don’t like it don’t have to read it! Plain and simple. I know you’re gonna be a great mom and Tim is definitely going to be a great dad…You’ll make it! I love you and I cannot wait to meet my little nephew!
P.S~~You know what’s neat, is when Marco’s older he can read your story and what you did when you were pregnant with him. My mom never did any sort of thing like this, or ever finished my baby book and it’s still cool to look at sometimes. I have her calendar of the year 1987 and it shows when all her doc appts were when she was pregnant, and the time I was born and like what her and Lionel did during that year. Because nowadays will definitely be different in 10-15 years. Just a thought…I know he’ll thank you for going through everything you have and even seeing all the good things that come from this blog! How amazing you are eating and what you and Tim have done over the past 9 months and so on….
I know I’m rambling now…I love you, give Tim a hug for me too!
thanks for the support!
it’s hard to put stuff out there on a blog. i know this is a public forum (i’ve made it that way for a reason) and i should expect that others will take issue with things that I say and/or do; but it still doesn’t make attacks easier to handle.
i wish my mom had kept a baby book! it would be nice to know more of her thoughts as they occurred, but i definitely hear plenty of stories from my mom and from Christopher.
ha ha they are alllll good stories =]] It’s kind of sad, I was telling dad and your mom that I have more memories of you, Em, and your mom than I do of my own mom as a kid.
And you are very welcome! Even if it is public, it still doesn’t mean people need to attack you. Their comment was ‘drama’. Why would someone who doesn’t like anyone’s posts take time to be mean? Just doesn’t make any sense to me.
You have a right to tell us [who love to read it!] how you’re doing. It sure is good to write it all out than to have us call you everyday and have the phone ring off the hook to tell us that way. I know dad really enjoys to read it as well.
Keep it up, Michelle…We love it! We certainly don’t like that you’re in so much pain all of the time and even though I can’t compare to the pregnancy pain, I can compare to the ‘pain’ in general with my back. It is no fun…But once you hold that precious baby boy of yours it will all be worth it!
Love you.
It’s those damn people who say that pregnancy is beautiful and amazing that ruin it for anyone else. If you say pregnancy is hard, people look at you like you are crazy. You never know what someone is going through unless you are in their shoes and there’s no way for anyone to experience what you are dealing with, so no one has a right to comment or judge you that way. How rediculous of them.
PS – looking back on your posts, I don’t even see where you were complaining about anything. Counting contractions? I don’t get it. People are weird.
honestly, I think that taking care of a newborn will be A LOT easier than what you are going through with this pregnancy. Usually people complain about not enough sleep, but you will get in a routine that works for you and Tim and it will not be so bad. Yah, of course there will be those bad days, but for the most part it isn’t hard and then the next thing you know they are 1 years old.
Reading that ‘Baby Wise’ book totally helped me and I’m glad you read it!
This Megan girl obviously hasn’t read your blog and what you have been going through. I couldn’t even imagine having contractions all the time. Luckily, you only have a couple more weeks then you will have Marco and won’t need to deal with those nasty contractions again
Stay strong, try hard not to stress about having a newborn, you will do great and just keep telling yourself that ‘you can do it and that it’s not that hard’ (taking care of a newborn)
Thank you, Jennifer!
I appreciate the support.
I am hoping that I can stick to the basics of the ‘Baby Wise’ plan; it seems to fit in best with our needs – hopefully it fits in with Marco’s!
Why must people think they are entitled to say whatever they want on someones page? I don’t get it. I can’t imagine being such a negative person to where I have to pop in on random peoples blogs and leave heartless comments.
This is your blog, please post and talk about any pregnancy worries, anxieties or scares you have on here, that’s what its for.
This person obviously has no life
Dont let her comments bother you. There are always people who will judge. You obviously have fabulous friends and family and those people are the ones that count. Yes, having a baby is harder but that doesnt mean pregnancy is easy. Just know that you have a wonderful, supportive husband and you two will make a great parenting team. Its good that you are honest about your expereince because I hate when people pretend that everything is easy. It sounds like you have lots of friends and family that are hoping for a chance to help out. Marco is very lucky to have you as a mom.
It might take a couple weeks to get Marco used to everything, but just stick to the plan and they get used to a routine. I will use that ‘eat, play, sleep’ routine that they talk about for all my kids. It really works!!!