Marco
is so mean.
I feel like he’s just shoving everything around so as to make me as uncomfortable as possible. IT HURTS. I know he needs more room. BUT I DON’T HAVE ANY.
Also, I’m having muscle spasms in my legs when I wake up in the mornings – this morning I woke up from a nightmare with both my legs cramped up! I had to yell for Tim to come help me get up and stretch.
Pregnancy is a crap deal.
Wow I used to really like reading your blog but all you do is complain!
I feel sorry for your child, you don’t seem ready to be a parent, at all!
Did you think pregnancy was a cake walk, suck it up it’s only 9 months…
Oh BTW any alcohol during pregnancy is a no no…I couldn’t believe you had some and than wrote about it….class-less, not even the gals across the pond, (who you try to be like) do that any more….
Ok, so you are talking about “class”, and what a comment to say to someone! If you do have a kid – you should know where we are at, and if you don’t have a kid – you have a world coming to you.
This blog is a means of expressing concerns and interests. Obviously, at this point our child to be is a major concern and interest of ours! It’s only natural to be a little freaked out – if we weren’t than we truly wouldn’t be ready!
We never claimed this would be easy – LIFE isn’t easy. We are going through it the best we can, and that’s all we can really promise! I’m constantly amazed at how well my wife is handling this. She is amazing, and is the strongest woman I know. She will be a wonderful mother any kid would be lucky to have. She will show our kid strength, kindness and love – and bring endless education to him. (She’s the smartest woman I know) Yes, she is freaked out – and for a darn good reason! Our Son is coming into this world!
As for alcohol, yes – absolutely, drinking isn’t good… if you knew my wife at all – you’d know she doesn’t. yes, she has had a sip (and I really do mean sip) of wine here and there – and there is nothing wrong with that. (some doctors say a glass a day is fine – she’s maybe had a total of one glass in the 6 months of pregnancy)
Bottom line is, if you don’t want to read it – don’t read it – but don’t throw insults and accusations about things you don’t have a clue about. If you don’t like reading blog posts about our child to be – skip them – and enjoy the many other posts written by my wife. But please keep these comments to yourself. Oh, and in case you haven’t figured it out yet – I’m her husband.
-Tim
Pregnancy does suck and it hurts but being honest about it has nothing to do with what kind of parent you are going to be. My whole life is about my daughter, but I’m not going to lie and say pregnancy was a joy, because it wasn’t! When your body is defying what is considered normal, there are going to be difficulties and where better to write about it then your very own blog? If you don’t like it, don’t read it.
And as far as the wine – I don’t know what crazy medical advice you have been reading, but there is absolutely, ZERO danger in having a small amount of wine during pregnancy. Michelle is getting proper prenatal care and, being someone who actually knows her, is taking every precaution in caring for her unborn child and he seems to be developing quite nicely!
So sorry that Marco isn’t playing nice! You’ll have to teach him that once he arrives!! I’m sure that he is a sweet boy though, and you’ll hardly be able to hold a grudge once you see his cute face! (which by the way, I can’t wait to see who he looks like!!!) For now you can voice your opinions about pregnancy all you want, you are entitled. Afteraall, there is a kid inside of you which can’t be comfortable all of the time…I am soon to experience the same discomforts as you! For your leg cramps, it helps if you have some calcium right before you go to bed, like a glass of milk. That should help ease them a little bit, or at least not make them so bad. Hope that helps!! You are almost there!!
DISCLAIMER: I wish I could say that your comment didn’t merit a response, but those darn pregnancy hormones wouldn’t let me leave it at ‘unapprove’.
Where to start….
All you do is complain.
Firstly, it’s called sarcasm, I apologize if you’ve never heard of it.
Secondly, I am sorry if my honest statements about some of the painful, uncomfortable, awkward, awful and downright crummy symptoms/side effects of pregnancy come off as complaints. You’re right! I love feeling nauseated! I love leg cramps! It is SO FUN to take vitamins the size of my palm everyday!
I feel sorry for your child, you don’t seem to be ready to be a parent, at all!
I feel sorry for you, because apparently you are a person that likes to make judgments about a person without actually knowing them. That must make life hard.
I don’t seem to recall ever stating that I was completely ready to have a child. Tim and I were definitely surprised by the pregnancy. Honestly, it wasn’t in our immediate plans. It never occurred to us to do anything other than have this baby; I’m sorry if you feel we should have done otherwise. I would also like to add that I don’t recall any parent I know ever stating that they were completely ready, either.
If complaining about back pain and headaches is what makes a bad parent, then I’ve been worrying about the wrong things. Here I was, worrying about if I’ll be able to breast feed, if working part-time will have a negative effect on his schedule, if my cat will take to him, if he has enough books to read, clothes to wear and blankets to keep him warm. Maybe you’re right; I should’ve been thinking how my stating ‘My head hurts’ is going to make me look.
Did you think pregnancy was a cake walk, suck it up it’s only 9 months…
Is there a question in here somewhere? If so, then the answer is a resounding ‘No’! Once again, something I’ve never claimed: that pregnancy was easy! That’s one of the reasons I blog about my pregnancy; there are readers that haven’t gone through it, and it might be nice/interesting/informative for them to hear some of the real things that occur during those nine months. Speaking of which, have you ever been pregnant? If you haven’t, I’d prefer you kept your uninformed and inaccurate opinions to yourself.
In response to the notion that I am ‘class-less’, let’s remind ourselves who has left a nasty comment on a stranger’s blog. Because you seem so keen to know, I didn’t finish the glass of wine I ordered on Valentine’s. Since I found out I was pregnant, I’ve had 3 sips of sparkling wine (New Year’s Eve), ½ glass of wine for the Valentine dinner, and yesterday I had 2 or 3 sips of a delicious red wine a friend recommended. All said, I’ve had about 1 full glass of wine during the almost 6 months that I’ve been aware of my pregnancy. I’m not worried about my alcohol consumption, and neither is anyone else I know.
not even the gals across the pond, (who you try to be like) do that any more’
The only European country I’ve visited is Italy, and I’ve honestly never seen so many pregnant women happily sipping on glasses of red wine with every meal!
I’d like to point out that we’ve never met; you don’t know anything about me other than what is divulged on my blog (and as any blogger knows, it’s never the whole picture). I don’t try to be like anyone other than myself. I freely admit to being susceptible to the charms of Hugh Laurie’s British accent, the lure of Parisian lingerie, the Belgian chocolate truffle, and the beautiful suits Roman men strut about it on a daily basis. However, I don’t smoke, I don’t believe in the monarchy, I like a good Hank Williams song as much as the next cowboy, and honestly, I’ll never understand the film ‘La Dolce Vita’ (sorry, Justin). I can’t stop myself from snacking on onion rings every now and then, and though I love a good cup of tea, as a kid I usually preferred the taste of Coca-Cola.
My own doctors and CNM NP have stated that while they don’t encourage drinking alcohol whilst pregnant, having a glass of wine now and then will do no harm to a baby; Tim and I trust they know what they are talking about, medical degrees and all.
I wish I didn’t feel it was necessary to respond to someone I’ve never before met (and never will, thank goodness); I wish I didn’t feel compelled to defend myself and my future parenting skills.
Dear random evil stranger:
No one is ever ready to be a parent for the first time. Those who have enough baby-hubris to think they are are in for a pretty big surprise. I know that you were trying as hard as you could to leave an honest, this’ll-be-good-for-you sort of comment, but all you’ve really done is make yourself sound bitchy and immature. Don’t goddamn read the blog if you don’t want to– no one’s got your eyelids pinned back Clockwork-Orange style, so you can switch off anytime you like. But leaving comments designed to make innocent people feel awful is just low– and insulting an apprehensive new mother is even worse. Something tells me you were the kind of kid who poured salt on snails and pulled the wings off of unsuspecting house flies.
I’ve known Michelle for ten years, and I’ve been extremely blessed to have her as my closest friend. She’s kind, loving, talented, intelligent, and hilarious– frankly, I’m excited for Marco that he gets to have her and Tim as parents. You are a stranger with an ugly, mean opinion. Who gives a shit what you think?
Oh, and speaking of “class-less”: learn grammar, asshole.
amen michelle!! marco is one lucky duck to have a mother like you (and stand-up father, Tim!)! can’t wait to see this boy!
Michelle dont let that comment get to you. Those of that know you and Tim know you will make amazing parents. Pregnancy is hard and it takes a strong person to admit the difficulties and challenges that come along with it. I am very much looking forward to our future playdates and reading more posts about not only your pregnancy with Marco but your transition into motherhood.
Michelle and Tim, don’t let some idiot stand in your way of anything. You both will be amazing parents and I have not one ounce of doubt! I have known Michelle since I was a baby and she’s always had an amazing head on her shoulders and if she blogged about how GREAT pregnancy was she’d be lying. This is HER blog and she can write whatever the hell she wants and if someone has a problem with it then nobody put a gun to your head and made you come read it!
So who ever this girl is, you are pathetic. Who are you to judge when you don’t even know her. Oh and don’t you find it creepy stalking someone’s blog? You need to grow up, my sister is going to be a wonderful mother as she is sister. She is a very caring and compassionate person, and OBVIOUSLY you would not know that hence the fact you don’t know her. Pregnancy isn’t an easy thing for anyone, but who are you to say just because my sister feels uncomfortable and has headache’s, because maybe theres a BABY inside her, have some sympathy before you criticize people, i mean come on, how old are you? She’s bringing a human being to this earth and her and her husband are very loving, and i know that when they have this baby, they will succeed in being parents. So I suggest you stop being so immature and maybe you should walk in the shoes of a pregnant women and see how it feels, and obviously if you have already there is no room for you to talk. Okay THANKS. I love you Michelle, don’t let anyone bring you down you and Tim are so smart and i know that you and Tim will be great parents. Seeing the way you have taught me through my years growing up being a great sister you’ve done such a great job.